Best Books for Coping With Your Husband In Midlife Crisis

Husband In Midlife Crisis
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Best Books for Coping With Your Husband In Midlife Crisis

Entering midlife can often rock the boat for both women and men. Many previously seemingly solid marriages can sail through stormy waters and founder on the rocks. I often hear from devastated readers struggling to understand what is happening with their husband in midlife crisis.

How can I cope with my husband in midlife crisis?

Men often deal with their Midlife Crisis in a different way to women. Midlife crisis can result in blame, depression, marriage breakdowns and affairs. Both men and women can go off the rails and hurt each other. However, husbands often have a specific pattern to the way they deal with a midlife crisis.

  • Does your husband say he is “no longer in love” with you but offers only vague reasons?
  • Does he seem like an angry stranger?
  • Is he having an affair or do you suspect he may be?
  • Is he trying to reinvent himself as a younger cooler version of himself?
  • Have you tried all kinds of things to try and keep him happy?
  • Does he blame you for this in some way, leaving you lost and confused?

Sadly, women who have often spent years looking after the family are blindsided as their previously reliable husband goes off the rails and they struggle to deal with the fallout.

The details are often familiar…

The detail I hear from my readers is often sad bewilderment and the story is often depressingly similar.

Therefore I have put together a list of books that may help you if you are facing the same situation.

I also wrote a detailed post called “Why Do Midlife Crisis Husbands Blame Wives?” which delves deeper into the reasons behind this common phenomena.


I would love to hear your ideas for books that helped you through your husbands midlife crisis.

Please add your ideas in the comments below.

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Books that will help you understand what’s going on with your husband in midlife crisis

How to Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from The Midlife Wives Club

Pat Gaudette.

This is the book to start with if you are facing this common situation.

Pat runs a forum for wives dealing with their husbands Midlife Crises. She has gathered together all the wisdom in the forum into this empowering book. You can learn from other women who have been through the same thing and it helps to feel you aren’t alone.


Detach and Survive: A Book of Self-Care for the Wives of Midlife Crisis Men

Midlife Maze

This is not a book for you if you want to fix your marriage. The message is one of self preservation and survival. It helps you to cope with this difficult time by looking after your self and letting go of that which you cannot control.

It will help you cope with his crisis with your self respect intact.


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Journaling through His Midlife Crisis: Redefining Your Life As He Reinvents His

Pat Gaudette

I am a huge fan of journalling. It can be an amazing way of externalising your thoughts and working through them. Pat Gaudette has created a journalling book to guide you through. There are blank pages for you to write on as well as gentle quotes and prompts to guide you through. The overall feeling is of a gentle friend holding your hand and helping you through.


Mastering Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis

Samantha Esmond

Author Samantha Esmond asks “Have you ever thought you are losing your mind because your husband became a stranger overnight?” The book details the personal stories of other women dealing with their husbands midlife crisis and what they did. It can be comforting and helpful to read the stories of others as you journey through the same situation.


Male Midlife Crisis: Why It Causes Men To Destroy Their Families, Finances and Even Commit Suicide…and What You Should Do

Kara Oh

This is a very practical book which explains exactly why men go through midlife crisis in the way that they do and what you can do to help them.

The message is positive in that, if he can emerge out the other side, your husband may actually grow and become the man he always wanted to be.

There is guidance on ways you can help him but also how you protect your own heart and sanity during the process.


I hope these books give you a starting point of things to read that will help you to cope with this very stressful time. I want to reach out and give you a virtual hug and say, things will improve. Stay strong.

Please comment below with your own ideas and let’s share the books that make us feel stronger.

Let’s support each other.

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